on the dignity of friendship

Our Live Gathering with

Laura McKowen

last week was a nurturing ninety minutes. The full recording is available for paid subscribers here, along with dates for next year’s Threshold, a short story, and a list of what it takes to be a good friend.

what we discussed

The meaning of the word ‘dignity’ at this phase in our lives, prioritizing friendship, non-violent communication as a source of empathy for self and a tool for improving our relationships with everyone, what being a responsible citizen means. We talked briefly about parenting, and the magnificence of the smallest acts of care for the kids. Certain aspects might surprise you.

If you’d like to study with us in person, we’re co-hosting our second annual THRESHOLD with Kemi Nekvapil as a weekend retreat, September 25th-28th, 2025 at the stunning True Nature Healing Arts Foundation in Carbondale, CO. Join the list to receive first notice for registration.

Laura, Kemi, Elena at Threshold 2024, image by Stephanie Scarcella.

personal context

On two occasions in my adult life, a friend told me I wasn't showing up in our friendship. Both times, as it happens, I was addicted; first to marijuana, then to my own self-importance. Both times I knew precisely where I'd faltered, and in both instances, by some grace, I knew when to let go of being right, to course-correct and apologize. 

As a result of their factual, caring, non-violent candor in both cases, my practice of being a solid friend has shifted. I can sense when things aren't working in a friendship, and can come through fully present when they are. Investing in my friends with simple actions has created a feeling of support no matter what's happening. I know I'm there for them, and so do they. And I can sense who's there for me. 

on the practice of friendship

Below, a humble, evolving list of practices to nurture good friendships. 

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